MsTonya Speaks

Here are two truths: 1You cannot undo your past BUT you can learn from it 2You can reshape your future IF you’re willing to see beyond where you are and do what it takes to get there.... Many wonder why the same things keep appearing in their lives. They wonder why they’re stuck year after year. They feel mentally imprisoned due to the constant thoughts of their past. Not to mention the silent suffering that they experience internally on a daily basis. When you stay in this space too long, you make this your permanent residence of living. You lose sight of what’s ahead You live on autopilot. You no longer create but instead take whatever life hands you So what happens..time passes and before you realize it, you will live a life of Wishing you had done something different as opposed to Being glad that you did it The worst thing to do is live a life of regret. To look back in time and wish you had the courage to do what you knew would’ve brought a better future! Don’t let what happened cause you to lose sight of what’s ahead for you because in order to move on from this, you must divorce your past and recommit yourself to a better future. My book Divorce Your Story gives 20 different principles that you need to help you on your journey of healing from your past relationship. Click on the link below for your signed copy along with a free gift! #RelationshipRehab #RelationshipRecovery #MsTonyaSpeaks https://www.divorceyourstorybook.com

A mindset shift has to be made before anything else does. #RelationshipRehab #RelationshipRecovery #MsTonyaSpeaks

For many "being single" appears to be some kind of disease that nobody wants to catch.... Chances are when you've been in a relationship for a long time, "being single" seems unfamiliar therefore not truly enjoying it for what it has to offer. When you find yourself being bothered by your relationship status of being single, it can steer you into choosing a relationship that doesn't compliment you. Does this mean that you shouldn't desire a relationship? No, because enjoying... your singleness doesn't mean you should not want a relationship. Enjoying your singleness is more about loving yourself to enjoy a relationship. In this episode, join me as I discuss three things you need to know when being single bothers you. #RelationshipRecovery #RelationshipRecovery #MsTonyaSpeaks

Moving on From The Relationship You Thought You Wanted! Order a copy of my book today! Link below https://www.divorceyourstorybook.com

When you wanted this relationship to be the one but it doesn’t, what do you do? How do you get to a place of accepting that the outcome was different than what you expected? Join me tonight on IG & Facebook for 3 things you need to do to exit from this space of feeling stuck.... #RelationshipRecovery #RelationshipRehab #MsTonyaSpeaks

When you constantly involve yourself in unhealthy relationships, you get used to a certain type & don’t even realize that that’s what it is. Anything that you continue to do or accept becomes a habit A habit is a learned behavior that turns into a normal routine due to its constant practice whether it’s healthy or unhealthy. ... Overtime, it becomes an addiction that can be hard to control and/or stopped therefore entertaining similar relationships repeatedly. If you find yourself seeing the same patterns show up, then it’s important to do and ask yourself the following: 1Take an honest look at your relationship patterns. What are the similarities in each relationship you choose to entertain that you keep seeing that is hurting you? 2In between these relationships, have you done some deep work within yourself to find some ways to improve? 3Check your mindset! Who you keep entertaining has a lot to do with how you think and feel of yourself. This may be a tough one to own, but many often entertain what they ONLY think they deserve. 4Get clear on what you need! What you need to create a healthy relationship will come in a different package than what you’ve been used to. Move beyond just your normal type and get more in tuned with who compliments you! Constantly entertaining the same kind of unhealthy relationships costs you! It costs you your time, your mental and emotional health, your peace, your sanity, your heart, your soul, your spirit, an opportunity for a healthy relationship and your goals! Don’t continuously bring yourself unnecessary suffering by being addicted to something that you can choose to detach yourself from! Is it hard? Yes! Because you have to go through a season of rebuilding! You must learn and unlearn new things to create a new normal and better habits! However, continuously dealing with dysfunction is even harder! Don’t make dysfunction become your normal way of living! #RelationshipRehab #RelationshipRecovery #MsTonyaSpeaks

There’s an internal move within that has to happen before anything external can take place and that’s mindset Here’s a truth: Wherever the mind goes, you follow......regardless of what you say you want, if you u don’t shift your mind, you won’t be able to shift your direction. Healing is more internal than anything! It’s about believing enough in yourself to do something differently!... #RelationshipRehab #RelationshipTherapy #MsTonyaSpeaks