Shaye Hudson, MA, LPC, C.Ht Therapy & Hypnotherapy

Ever felt uncomfortable? I think most of have experienced a sense of discomfort or uncertainty while moving through areas of pain, grief, anger, confusion, sadness, surprise, change... Discomfort, as challenging as it is, is a natural part of life. We move through these webbed spaces, looking to find a solution, or wanting to remove however it is we are feeling, unknowingly sometimes...sitting through all the feels with no resolution. I often find these times are the most s...acred in life. Discomfort means something is changing. It welcomes in the energy of resiliency and grace. Can you hold compassion for yourself while you are going through an emotion that brings you fear or worry? Can you love yourself through the most difficult times? The next time you feel anxious, agitated, worried, concerned, for what might be happening, bring heart conscious energy into your being, asking for support while the motions of life occur. Create a welcoming in your body for opportunity and deeper understanding. The next time you move through discomfort, offer yourself love and curiosity to find what’s new. Trust. Michelle Shlafman

Do you experience any of these symptoms? #trauma

Parts of the self and Polyvagal Theory.

Authentic Communication.

The science of attachment teaches us that by the time we are 18 m old, we have an attachment style: * Secure attachment: sad to be away from our caregiver, hap...py to be reunited with them. * Anxious attachment: terrified to be away from our caregiver, hard to soothe upon reunion. * Avoidant attachment: unruffled by separation and reunion. * Disorganized attachment: frantic push and pull around separation and reunion. The next wave of attachment researchers in the 1990s explored how our attachment style affects our adult intimate relationships and found that: * Adults can be classified as having one of these 4 attachment styles as well. * Our attachment style shapes our relationship dynamics. * We never outgrow our need for a secure base. For more on the science of adult attachment, check out Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Amir Levine. About 5 years ago I was at my favorite therapy conference, Psychotherapy Networker. I attended Dr. Sue Johnson’s keynote address about love and attachment right before I gave my workshop about hookup culture, and it hit me like a ton of bricks: the low-accountability-high-ambiguity dating scene is an attachment injury. I’m not talking about the fear-loaded high school sex Ed message you got that where they have you stick a piece of tape on your arm and then pass it to a classmate to prove that sex outside of marriage will ruin your ability to bond with (stick to) someone. I’m talking about the fact that we are hardwired for clarity, safety, and predictability. In a dating atmosphere in which people feel as though they need to: * play it cool/be chill * have no needs * act as if it’s ok if we see each other or don’t see each other... it makes total sense that people show signs of disordered attachment. Disordered attachment looks like: * clinging/obsessing/ruminating * numbing out/avoiding/walling off These behaviors are best understood as reasonable attempts to cope with ambiguity. If you start to see these behaviors as making sense given the context, you can stop pathologizing yourself (I’m broken) and start working on articulating the kinds of boundaries you need to feel calm and empowered. See more

Box Breathing. A powerful practice to activate calm and regulate your stress. #box #breathing #stress #calm

From a colleague Song Kim.

#anxiety #relationships

#hypnotherapy #guidedimagery #meditation #brainspotting #trauma #healing