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#Live in the moment and be present. It sounds so simple, but most of the time, our #minds are wandering and we are either planning for the future or rehashing the past. The only time you are truly alive is in the present moment. Being present helps us savor the simple moments of life, #calms us down during times of #stress, and helps us to be more focused. -Chantelcohen.com

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Parents and #families trying to adjust to a new way of doing life with remote job tasks, virtual learning from home and social distancing. Give your children permission to talk about their #feelings by asking questions and letting them know that it is okay to share their experience. Helpful questions parents can ask include: -What #worries do you have about Coronavirus?... -How are you doing with all of the changes to your routine? -What changes have been the hardest for you? -Is there anything that you like about the changes to your routine? -What do you miss about #socializing in person, going to school, or participating in activities? See more

At the end of every year, the #holiday season is the perfect occasion to make memories with the people you care about most. Connecting with #friends, #family and loved ones (even if not in person) makes our hearts full, and these happy holidays quotes will inspire you to spread cheer! Happy Holidays Everyone!

It's the week after the election and emotions are still running high. Whether reading or watching the news, posting about the elections, or conversing about it, consider these points and be sure to look after your mental health this week.

The #holidays will be different this year-there's no denying that, but, with a little creativity and attention to safe practices, we can enjoy this #festive time and keep each other #safe. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ib0G-wq5fuk&feature=youtu.be

Here Are A Few More Ways to Recognize Flooding- -You may have a hard time focusing as your #mind becomes #overwhelmed trying to process lots of information at once. -You may suddenly feel #anxious, or you withdraw #mentally as the brain overheats and copes by turning off for a moment.... -Your fight-or-flight response kicks in. You may debate whether you can stick the situation out or if you need to flee to safety. (You may feel unsafe even in situations that aren’t actually #physically threatening.) -Your emotions may be all over the place. You may not be able to pinpoint or explain which #emotions you’re feeling. -You may have physical symptoms such as sweaty hands, tunnel vision, or lightheadedness. -Outwardly, flooding can look like #panic, fear, or a complete shut-down. Whatever form it takes, being flooded is an extremely uncomfortable feeling, and it can take a long time to come down. Even if flooding is a regular occurrence in your life, please know that you’re not alone and there are many ways to help yourself through those moments.

Emotional flooding is caused by an unrelenting stream of stimulus coming at you ‘thick and fast’. Like a real flood it overwhelms everything in its path and the level slowly but surely rises up and up, #overwhelming everything in sight. During a #conflict or heated #argument with your partner its easy to feel emotionally flooded. In this state of mind it’s more likely that you will say or do something untoward that you will later regret. In this state, you aren’t thinking str...aight, your capacity to process thought with reason has been compromised, so continuing the conversation / argument is unlikely to end well. Effective things you can do to avoid becoming #emotionally flooded include: -Taking a break and cooling it. Talking about one thing at a time. -Using self #soothing exercises to regulate the flow of your #emotions. -Agreeing to work toward a solution with a positive focus. -Being willing to admit you are wrong / partly responsible / don’t have all the facts -Being flexible on things you can ‘bend’ on to get the best outcome for you both. -Reminding yourself and each other of your #relationship values. See more

Ghosting is when someone cuts off all #communication without explanation. Ghosting is by no means limited to long-term #romantic relationships. Informal #dating relationships, friendships, even work relationships may end with a form of ghosting. Ghosting has a lot to do with someone’s comfort level and how they deal with their #emotions. A lot of people anticipate that talking about how they feel is going to be a confrontation. For the person who does the ghosting, simply wal...king away from a relationship, or even a potential relationship, is a quick and easy way out. No drama, no hysterics, no questions asked, no need to provide answers or justify any of their behavior, no need to deal with someone else’s #feelings. That mental expectation makes people want to avoid things that make them uncomfortable. Ghosting #hurts- it’s rejection. It is particularly painful because you are left with no rationale, no guidelines for how to proceed, and often a heap of #emotions to sort through on your own. If you suffer from any #abandonment or self-esteem issues, being ghosted may bring them to the forefront. Don't torture yourself by going over old photos, saved old texts, new social media postings, and anything else you think might give you insight into the mind and current whereabouts of your ghoster (and let’s face it, you’re bound to be doing that even if you’re not normally an obsessive person). Focus your attention on something more positive. Perhaps most importantly, know that this probably isn’t about you or anything you did wrong. You should realize that if an individual chose the strategy of #ghosting to break up with you, it likely tells you something about them and their shortcomings, rather than indicating that the problem lies with you.

Sometimes, we are impatient with ourselves, which can actually block our progress. Being patient with ourselves is being conscious of our humanity and remembering none of us is perfect. Patience means embracing ourselves with self-acceptance, and choosing to focus on progress rather than perfection. It means giving ourselves compassion rather than withholding it. It means speaking to yourself with more kindness and empathy. You will succeed. You will win. Give yourself time.

According to the American #Psychological Association’s Stress in America 2020 report, around 68% of Americans say that the upcoming election is a significant source of #stress no matter their political affiliation. You should know that feeling terrified right now is, unfortunately, a totally natural #reaction- You are not alone in your #feelings. Regardless of who wins or loses, it's going to be an #emotional week for everyone, both good and bad. Create a #strategy for el...ection week. Your plan should include things like building in time for sleep, being strategic about your news consumption (not watching/reading every news story), setting timers on social media apps to limit screen time, and figuring out how to stay updated on the events unfolding without becoming #overwhelmed. It should also include emotional things, like who you’ll turn to for comfort if necessary and reminding yourself that getting into internet fights about politics won't help you feel better. Be Vigilant!

When it comes to deepening your #connection with your partner, be deliberate about structuring the plan. You want to give it meaning. The intention is to create conditions for your #relationship to deepen and to find new ways of relating. But for that to happen, the first step is to enjoy it. Regardless of how you organize your plan, make it a priority to have fun with it. Treat it as a playful experiment in which you both get to hold space and be #mindful but also, become curious about one another.

Losing that feeling of being in #love can be a common hazard in long relationships. In becoming family with each other, you fall into routines, old #arguments, endless distractions, like the kids and their ongoing needs and the long hours at work. All too often, it begins to feel that somewhere in all this daily living, the love you once knew has faded.What can you do when you’re not quite feeling the love, but longing to revive a #relationship grown tired? Check out these ti...ps:#1-Show and express appreciation, not only by saying I love you! but by being very specific about what you value in each other. #2- Ask personal questions and stop to listen for an answer. Be present. #3- Break out of your old routines and try something new (like date night or a short vacation #4-Remember their amazing qualities you fell in love with.These are just a few tips to bring back that spark in your relationship, but these shouldn't be the only steps taken. The next step should be to seek the help of a couple's #therapist. There are many more strategies that must be put in place to help you and your partner fall in love again. It's not easy, but it's possible. Visit becomeoneagain.com to download the couple's course to help repair your relationship and visit chantelcohen.com to schedule an appointment. See more

All romantic relationships go through ups & downs and they all take work, commitment, and a willingness to adapt and change with your partner. Whether your relationship has recently started feeling stale or whether it's been on auto-pilot for a while, remember there are many strategies you can take to rebuild and revive your relationship. Coming up with a plan to improve & maintain your relationship can give you a sense of direction for your relationship and help to anticipate problems in the relationship as they arise. Visit becomeagain.com for help with coming up with a strategy to improve your relationship.

People with #anxiety issues tend to beat themselves up #internally. Their subconscious #thoughts sometimes focuses on self-defeat & limitations. This can lead to low-self esteem. If this sounds familiar, you should take some time during the day to remember the good things about yourself & celebrate your achievements & accomplishments. Writing down good moments & successes can give you concrete #reminders of what you are capable of during your low moments.Also, talk to a #ther...apist. There are many #treatment options that can help manage anxiety & help you reach your full potential. Chantelcohen.com

Your #happiness is within reach & we can help you get it back! We assist clients with self-improvement, career development, negative self-talk, #psychological pain, self-sabotaging behavior, past #hurts and finding your #purpose. Check out chantelcohen.com to schedule a FREE call.

#Boundaries are crucial for any #healthy relationship. Boundaries help keep you happy, but sometimes we shift our boundaries to make others happy. In doing so, we put the feelings of others before ours, which often leads to our unhappiness. Don’t put your #happiness on hold. Don’t put the happiness of others above your own. Be #compassionate and loving, but take care of yourself too. Chantelcohen.com